yolanda, 44 - Sandton
Gauteng, South Africa
I was taught to be caring and thoughtful; I wasn’t taught anything else from anyone other than not to trust people. I’m the odd ball of my family because I am nothing like anyone. I can say I was also taught to believe in myself and never down myself because I can accomplish anything. That is shown through my determination and hard work because if I didn’t believe in myself I wouldn’t try as hard.
Last but not all, Humanistic approach sums up my personality a little more than psychodynamic does because it involves nature vs. nurture and that kind of sums it up just saying that. Environment and Heredity is kind of the main reasons of my attitudes and actions. In the article, Time-Limited Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Briggs conducts different forms of psychotherapy techniques to prove whether things in an adolescent’s life effect different adolescents differently. His study was a success and proved that many adolescents have different interpretations on the same issue. He read them off different problems and wanted to see how they would interpret them. He used children in the age groups of 12-17 and it worked out.
I think that the different approaches can be brought together in some circumstances but in my case it doesn’t. My personality makes more sense coming from the humanistic approach.
Someone who you'd spend a long time with (if not your whole life). Could be the person you're with now, could be someone you have yet to meet.
Describe him or her. What is he or she like?
My ideal partner is someone who can make me laugh even in the worst of situations; someone who brings up my mood when I'm feeling really down. He isn't the sexiest man out there, but he is pretty attractive in his own way. I don't pay much attention to looks; it's mostly secondary to me. Personality is what reels me in.
Someone funny. Stupid jokes, bad jokes, it doesn't matter, as long as you have a personality. Someone who knows about the world and has some sort of passion in life, who motivates me when I wanna give up. You want a companion who you can trust in life, not some crazy wild mofo who's just interested in sex and is never there when you really need him.
He would never get bored of hearing about my day and vice-versa. He would love to lay in bed for hours just talking and holding hands.