Tips for Newcomers to Online Dating – How to Get Started

Tips for Newcomers to Online Dating – How to Get Started

Before computers were invented, humans would meet potential love interests after they exchanged a couple of smiles and perhaps some words. Love at first sight may have also been a big thing in the olden days before any sort of Internet was available. And perhaps in ancient times people even found love by smoke signal! For many, finding love in the days of old may have been be a longwinded, time consuming endeavour.

Since the Internet, online shopping and many other important things we do are done online on a daily basis. When it comes to dating and finding love many people take the bull by the horns and join online dating sites to speed up the process of finding that special someone.

In this article we cover the basics that will provide you with the best chance of finding that special someone online in hopefully, a short span of time.

Don’t be in a hurry

We have a huge list of testimonials here on Some people say that they met someone in a day or a couple of days. This is great, but you never want to make important life decisions in a hurry. Taking time to think over important life decisions is always a good idea and that is probably very true when it comes to new love interests as it could have a profound effect on your future. The idea that you can never go to slow may be an idea that will serve you well in the long run.

Put important information in your profile

Think about the things you will want to know about the person you are thinking of spending the rest of your life with. Don’t be shy to indicate what you are looking for in a mate. Dating online is usually done to meet the most suitable person in the shortest span of time. Indicating exactly what you are looking for saves you time and your potential matches that view your profile.

Only use recent photos in your profile

Using old photos because you want to look better in the photo may cause the other person to feel mislead when you finally meet them.

Keep in mind that it is important to make a great first impression when you meet someone for the first time. Having photos that portrays yourself in another era may just be the thing that signals a very short first date and no second date at all.

Never use photos of a person other than yourself. This would be an instant turn off and will probably always end in the other person fleeing the first date. Even telling people that you did not use your real photo before meeting them may put people off completely and result in no date at all.

Using recent photos of yourself will always be the best way to meet that special person.

Read the profiles of potential matches carefully

It will always be a good idea to spend some time going through the other person’s profile. If they contacted you or if you make the first move, going through their profile thoroughly gives you an opportunity to spot some deal-breakers off the bat and may save you time in the long run.

Make the first move (if you want to)

Gone are the days when women waited for men to make the first move. Traditionally it’s the man’s job to make the first move but it is not uncommon for woman to start up the conversation online. Most men will usually not read negatively into it if woman start up the conversation online.

Most men will start conversations if they like what they see. If you are a man, traditionally it is expected from you to make the first move but in the online world things are never written in stone.

The best way to get things moving along is to always start up the conversation if you like what you see, whether you are male or female.

Write a quality first message if you see someone you are interested in

In an ideal world you would send personalized email to each of your matches you are making the first move on. Unfortunately, free available time is usually something that is in short supply for most of us.

If you have a copy and paste message ready, modify it slightly to fit into what the other person said on their profile. Also keep in mind that nobody likes to receive a copy and paste message although many (if not most) people send those. If you have a copy and paste message, why not personalize it slightly?

Ideally you would want to write personalized email for your most important matches and you could perhaps use personized copy and paste messages to your not so important matches.